The harmonious family life is all about open communication, respect, and indeed the discipline. A household can be peaceful, without silent! It is about respecting each other, treating each as an individual, in accordance with the limits of communication and efficient manner.
first respect each other
within any one family member needs to know that they love and appreciate others. One way we can show that they are considered thoughts, and property. For example, if someone sad or lonely not just be ignored. The question is why, and listen to reason. Do not feel the need to solve the problem for them.
we can show respect just by being polite to each other. A simple please and thank you goes a long way. Or "How was your day" and listening to the answers.
in respect of someone & # 39; s ideas and opinions are not does not mean that I agree with them. We all need to have our say and share your ideas though. Sometimes kids come up with wonderful ideas, and sometimes they come up with is not a good idea. But the adult hindsight wisdom to see the idea is not feasible. Children see the world differently. Listening to their ideas creates a wonderful learning environment, then why an idea that does not work, let them find for themselves (as long as it does not damage them) recovered or idea.
Similarly, many people no longer respected older. Perhaps there is frustration that their pace has slowed down, or maybe they think they have nothing important to say. This group of people is a lifetime experience and a wealth of knowledge to pass.
2. Treat each person as an individual
It is interesting to hear people say, "All of my children treated equally." Why do we want to do this if every child (or family member) unique? They have their own strengths, values, wants and goals. Each person feels differently, understands differently and see the world from their own perspective. Treating everyone the same way, denying the uniqueness of the people.
This does not mean, highlighting the differences – it is about admiring them, embracing them and nurturing them. For example, some people have a better sport, others are artistic or building things. You do not need to tell each other, "they are better than you do sports, you stick to your plan." We need to encourage each other. Instead, try "you are wonderful drawing and sport really moving."
often get caught in the trap boxing man. We believe one good child in sports and 2 children good reading and writing. However, if it exceeds this, the kids can use this to limit yourself. They might say, "Oh, I'm good at this activity, but it is not that" so did not need to try other things. In the end we want the kids to have a balanced, well-rounded and able to try new things without fear.
3. Be in accordance with the boundaries
borders are equally important in our lives and the discipline of the children. When we are inconsistent keeps the borders can be confusing for children because they do not know when to change your mind.
Whether or not the children, parents, friends, family or work, we can enforce the limits. For example, if a special day or evening with you family and friends to ask for help, or he seeks to work that day come, it will not. Keeping the promise that family is more important than anything else is coming.
If we want cooperation of children simply know the boundaries of the site and observe them. You must communicate these limits, and make sure that children understand the consequences of going beyond the limits. And it's not an empty threat, but use can be carried out, the logical consequence. When dealing with small children the logic is different. They can refer to acceptable behavior rewards and treats. For example, use as a marble, a jar technique. There is a glass jar bullets in it. When children behave well or good decision to let the marble in the bottle. If they misbehave, a marble or glass. The goal is to fill the whole bottle, which you may be able to treat them separately, such as a park or a special trip with an afternoon game of all games.
To stick to anything, however, it should be. This is not a good decision during the boundaries and letting them slip if they are too tired or too busy. You may have to stop what you are doing to cope with the problem.
When did you last feel really listened? If people sharing an idea or story is not the other person to ask more questions, or they wait until the break and share their ideas or story? Most people do not know how to listen. But you can learn to listen to it.
Next time you talk to someone, listen to understand him. Ask them questions. Find out more about their way of thinking. Ignore the sound may be interrupted when he does his own story. You will be surprised how much you can learn about someone, which will strengthen the bond.
And when you're the one with the speech, see for yourself. Note that if you beautify things that are more interesting. Notice that you share the real you, or what you think they want to hear. Communication is all about, and share your true self. What could be more profound meaningful relationships, if you really communicate with each other.
These are just some ideas to help maintain harmony in family life. Remember that silence is not. It is about a meaningful exchange, recognition and so all family members know who they are.